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Live authentically unafraid of the dark shadow side

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This was the post that ended up causing so much controversy.   Some people get uneasy when I speak bluntly and directly, but I don’t care, which is why this is getting posted here too!

Shirley Manson (Left photo: Lead singer of one of my favorite bands, “Garbage”) once said, “I’m afraid of happy people. They’re chemically unbalanced.”

It can be infectious to me if someone always comes off jolly and happy. At the same time, I’m suspicious of that. It feels like a forced niceness that comes off inauthentic.

Mary Kohnert, the Development director at Michelle’s (Pfeiffer) former company said to me once, “When someone is always happy, then they just come off goofy.” True. I’ve received negative rap from some turned off by how dark, harsh, and moody I come off at times, but at least I’m real and will never conform.

Brendon Urie (Right photo: Lead singer of one of my other favorite bands, “Panic at the Disco”) once said, “I find myself being attracted to dudes all the time. I’m like, ‘Wow, that’s a beautiful man.’ There’s no shame in it; that’s how I feel.”

Brendon has been with the same woman for over ten years and married for five of those. I’ve forever loved people who are not afraid to shine light on parts of themselves that others would get squeamish or uncomfortable about. You do that and you risk me tailgating you until the ends of the Earth. If you get offended by something I or anyone says or does, then I will do it more because, “F*ck you.”

Live authentically unafraid of the dark shadow side, which is often the more real side.

 


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How do you define sexuality? What are your sexual fantasies? I’d love to hear your stories for possible publication.

How do you define sexuality? What are your sexual fantasies? I’d love to hear your stories for possible publication. My research on the interaction between men and women, men and men, women and women continues. I am looking for stories about your sexual fantasies. This includes, but not limited to how you feel your physical appearance has affected your life in general, your real sexual experiences, and your sexual fantasies. How you relate to the opposite sex and/or the same sex. Whether you are straight, gay or bi and if you’ve had fantasies with someone who is not of the gender you are typically attracted to.   If you would like to have your story considered for publication in a new future book, please send the story to dudelit@gmail.com with a note giving Kevin Hunter and Dude Literature permission to edit and publish your story. Please put the word “Sexuality” in the subject line.  You will retain all copyright and you can have your story published anonymously if you prefer.

I’m a writer and like an actor who often stays in character, I am that actor and that artist who stays in the zone long when I’m creating.

“There are a lot of people approaching me this past week asking what’s wrong and that I seem depressed etc.  I’m doing just fine.  I’m a writer and like an actor who often stays in character, I am that actor and that artist who stays in the zone long when I’m creating.  I don’t abruptly pull out just like in sex.  I’ve been in heavy creation mode on my next book since the beginning of September.  This is a huge spiritual project that’s jam-packed with an immeasurable amount of revealing information that will help a lot of people.  Because it’s channeled through spirit it leaves me intellectually drained even though there is a rush or high during the process.   I’ve been in the middle of an emotionally painful section the last couple weeks that is excruciating to go through, but necessary, and that’s the aftermath that many are witnessing when they see me.  If I ask you to fuck off, please know that I mean that with love and don’t take it personally.  I do appreciate you.”

-Kevin Hunter

Exploring Sexuality: Heterosexual Male Fantasies

One of my straight male friends and I were hanging out one night talking.   We will call this friend James.   James was in his late twenties at the time when he confessed something to me I had never heard him say before.   He said that he has had periodic fantasies of what it would be like to sexually explore with another guy and had always wanted to try it at least once.   He knew that I was open sexually as I never attempted to hide it.   He said that if he were to try it that it would need to be with someone he trusted and felt comfortable with.   It turns out that I was that guy.

The proposal was on the table that when his girlfriend was to head out of town that I would consider his proposition.  We discussed it here and there over the course of time.  I allowed him to be confessional and open as I am with anybody.   I’m typically the one that others come to with their deepest darkest secrets.  At some point as they’re revealing hidden feelings to me they would say, “I don’t know what it is about you, but I feel like I can tell you anything and you don’t judge it.”

A couple of months had passed and James hit me up asking if I would come over to his place since his girlfriend was out of town for the weekend.   When I arrived he was slightly nervous.   He was rarely like that with me before, but this time knowing what he was intending to do was making him feel anxious, yet eager.  It was as if he were a teenage male virgin about to experience sex for the first time.  He had a football game on the big screen and was wearing his football jersey with cutout standees of a couple of his favorite players in the living room just to give you a little more detail about this guy.

This isn’t to emphasize the stereotype that if a guy is straight he’s into sports and if he’s gay, then he’s not.  I’ve seen the reverse be true more times than I can count.  Meaning the straight guy is uninterested in sports and the gay guy is racing home so that he doesn’t miss the big game.

James and I talked on the couch for a bit and he then said, “Well you know why I wanted you to come over today?   My {girlfriend’s} away and wanted to see if you wanted to experiment what we’ve been talking about, if you’re cool with that.”  I said, “Sure if this is what you want and you’re ready, then I’ll let you lead.”

He didn’t waste any time sitting up, grabbing the back of my neck with his hand and leaning in to kiss me.  He pulled away blushing a little with a slight smile surprised liking it, “Hmmm.  Interesting.”   He leaned back in getting more comfortable in kissing me again.  Only this time his other hand went down my shorts to feel me up and play with my dick a little.

Not to go into too much graphic detail on here, but in making a long story short we explored one another, yet I allowed him to have the majority of the leading and to go as far as he was comfortable with, then we could stop.

After we both climaxed he said, “Well I will say that it was better than I thought it would be.”   Guilt and panic suddenly set in him where he frantically started cleaning the living room like a mad man.   He said, “You don’t understand when she comes home she’ll smell it on me and will be able to tell.”  This might be true considering that the female senses are keener than the males.

Freud said everyone was born bisexual, and then we had the Kinsey effect that introduced to the naive world that sexuality isn’t all black and white.  There is a whole grey area existing that is rarely talked about.  It’s assumed you’re either gay or straight, and not both.  Yet this couldn’t be further from the truth.  Since I was a teen, I’ve had so many people share their private sexual fantasies and stories with me.  This is from those who are male, female, straight, gay and bi.  Add to this the research I’ve personally conducted in the sex world, I’ve discovered that sexuality is greyer than it is on one side or another.  The media and culture has ingrained it in people’s minds that it’s one or the other.  Not true.  The media doesn’t have a clue.

If you would like to share your personal sexual fantasies with me for a future book, please feel free to message me granting me permission.  I can assure you that your anonymity will be kept private.  If you just want to share your story, but do not want it to be used in any form except for my eyes only, then let me know that too.   Include details that you feel are relevant such as your gender, orientation, age.   Email: Kevinsbeach@aol.com

I think I’ve been a gentleman long enough to finally earn a piece of that – Kevin Hunter

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This one dude was quietly courting me. Although he wasn’t terribly direct about it because you would never know that’s what he was up to. Every month or so I’d get a text from him seeing how I was doing. Eventually he’d work it up to, “Hey want to hang out.” I tell him I’d love to. This went on for six months.  When we didn’t talk for a couple months he came back around again asking me to dinner. I thought why not I’m still single. Going out should be fine. Well that night he has a few drinks more than usual and gets real comfortable and starts kissing me. Long story short. We have sex. He later tells me, “I think I’ve been a gentleman long enough to finally earn a piece of that.”  Oh you sweet talker you.

Although I appreciate his ability to wait it out, I realized that I was never quite all that into him as much as he was into me.  This is where you have to be careful. What do you do when you enjoy someone and you’re attracted to them, but you don’t see a ‘relationship’ with them anywhere in the equation. They’re simply just someone to have fun with until the REAL relationship comes in. The problem is he sees you as that guy. This is where you better back out and fast. You both have to be on the same level or you’ll have a blow up ahead.  So that’s what I did.

© 2011 Kevin Hunter’s Sex Column

He Saw the Bulge In My Pants – Kevin Hunter

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My buddy comes over to talk to me. I’m sitting down. He’s leaning over me a little bit whispering something private about something.  He looks down my body for a split second and says, “Whoa that’s a nice view.”

I look down confused. I’m wearing jeans and sitting with my legs apart, and there it is, the shape of my cock bulging under it. I abruptly close my legs and pull my chair under my desk.
“Oops” I say. I don’t blush, because I don’t get all that embarrassed, but I did laugh. “Sorry” I ad.

“Hey don’t apologize, that’s god’s gift.” He reminds me.


Kevin Hunter’s Book Jagger’s Revolution

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Kevin Hunter is the dude-lit author of the hit beach book, “Jagger’s Revolution”

Kevin Hunter is the author of the hit beach read, “Jagger’s Revolution“.

“Ever wanted to recapture that feeling you had in High School when you had the crush on that boy from the football team?  That feeling slowly fades as you get older, but its a feeling we long for.  Kevin Hunter brings that feeling back with the uncompromising protagonist Jagger.  An unlikely guy to feel any kind of crush as his strength is times ten and he couldn’t imagine putting himself into that vulnerable state.  Love isn’t something you can control.  When you get a crush there is no stopping it and he stops at nothing to land in from the eyes of the hot local lifeguard.”

Moves Like Jagger is a song that uncannily describes Jagger in Jagger’s Revolution – Kevin Hunter

Kevin HunterMoves Like Jagger is a song that uncannily describes Jagger in Jagger’s Revolution.  The last couple of weeks I’ve received an onslaught of emails and phone calls with people sending me the song “Moves Like Jagger” saying things like, “I think this one is for you!”  I gave it a listen and I thought,  “Wow there is an uncanny resemblance to my character Jagger in the book Jagger’s Revolution.”

Jagger is an unapologetic sexy and intelligent guy who rules everything around him.  The one big thing he wrestles with is love as we all do.  He struts his stuff like a peacock, but crumbles whenever he runs into his crush.

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The song “Moves Like Jagger” is performed by Maroon 5 and Christina Aguilera.  It’s sexy, funky and screams a Summer good time.

“Moves Like Jagger” lyrics.
Performed by Maroon 5 and Christina Aguilera

Just shoot for the stars if it feels right
Then aim for my heart if you feel like
And take me away, make it okay
I swear I’ll behave
You wanted control. So we waited
I put on a show. Now we’re naked
You say I’m a kid. My ego is big
I don’t give a shit. And it goes like this.
Take me by the tongue and I’ll know you
Kiss me until you’re drunk and I’ll show you
You want the moves like Jagger
I’ve got the moves like Jagger
I don’t need to try to control you
Look into my eyes and I’ll own you
With them moves like Jagger
Maybe it’s hard
When it feels like you’re broken and scarred
Nothing feels right
But when you’re with me I make you believe
That I’ve got the key
So get in the car. We can ride it
Wherever you want. Get inside it
And you want to steer. But I’m shifting gears
I’ll take it from here. And it goes like this.
You want to know how to make me smile
Take control, own me just for the night
And if I share my secret you’re gonna have to keep it
Nobody else can see this
So watch and learn. I won’t show you twice
Head to toe. Rub me right
But if I share my secret
You’re gonna have to keep it
Nobody else can see this
And it goes like this
Take me by the tongue and I’ll know you
Kiss me until you’re drunk and I’ll show you
All the moves like Jagger
I’ve got the moves like Jagger

-Kevin Hunter

“Jagger’s Revolution” The boy book that takes a not so pretty peek into the gay dating life in Southern California – Kevin Hunter

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“Jagger’s Revolution”
The boy book that takes a not so pretty peek into the gay dating life in Southern California.

Things have just begun heating up in Los Angeles.  Jagger, a strong, put together dude works out his dating frustrations through a series of sexually charged columns and vignettes.  A fun-laidback-summer book for the under twenties set who hate to read, but are looking to get off, be slightly enlightened or just plain dreaming of love.  Readers follow Jagger’s hunt for the real thing in a city that seems to be plagued of any honest human connection.  One nineteen-year-old reader described it as a rainbow book for adults, “…more emotional, but HOT!”

The protagonist is an aristocratic beach thug who rules by his scrupulous idea of how dating and relationships should be equating dating with going to battle. He’s strikingly attractive, but also a menace, with an aggressive disapproval for weakness and bad etiquette. His rough and interesting dating past prompts an editor to spear him into incorporating and transcribing his findings into a series of columns for a popular magazine. The author sets up a highly perceptive dark alter ego, Jagger, to deliver a not particularly warm interpretation of the dating and sex world, while offering a fresh alternate perspective.

He steps up to inform us all about what it’s like to be a regular guy dating in the current frustrating marketplace, offering much more serious complications in the way of hunting for romance. Jagger wrestles with assuming the stance of a guy-cockiness and all-yet searching for a balance in finding love’s peace.  He seems to have it all down, and believes he has Mr. Right in his eye line, if only he could speak to him.

The narrative is sexually explicit throughout, but also affecting in places where you’re motioned to stop and think. He finds exhaustion with going on yet another sexual or friendly excursion when he knows the guy for him is the one he can’t say more than two words to. If there is any light to all his darkness, it’s the pleasing love story, the central theme that runs throughout his disappointments in matters of the heart. He experiences the kind of crush and love one has as a teenager over Garth, the dreamboat lifeguard from Australia, with the boyish distinction and the killer smile, who he keeps running into in passing.  He feels an immediate silent connection with him and longs to get close.

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Jagger’s Revolution by Kevin Hunter
Publication Date: November 28, 2006
Paperback: (5×8) – $13.97; 330 pages

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