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Two of my long term relationships to date started out as a crush

Image may contain: one or more people, sky, outdoor and natureCrushes are an intense infatuation for someone who is usually unattainable for you, but I’ve always obtained my crushes on some level eventually, which I know not many people can say that.  My romantic life is a series of romantic comedies come true, but it’s not without its challenges. Sometimes you later regret wanting them so fervently.

Two of my long term relationships started out as a crush where I realized that fate was persistently orchestrating our continuous path crossing in person. I had that heart pounding heart wrenching teenage crush on them for an extended period of time before we finally merged as one. There is a part of me that is overly confident that I’ve actually stated out loud each time, “I will get that person.”

Call me arrogant if you want, but the bottom line is that I do end up getting the crush more often than not, and I don’t have to do much to get them. All I have to do is stand in front of them and each one has taken over from there. Soon they’re making a beeline to me whenever they see me, pushing themselves through a crowd to talk to me, eventually the conversation moves beyond a hello, and then there’s long drawn sentences over the course of bumping into one another until suddenly we’re fucking dating eons later.

Once together, they confess they also had a crush on me, but claimed I didn’t seem to notice them. They thought I was intense, intimidating, or that they were barking up the wrong tree and I wasn’t interested. I do come off exceptionally cold and aloof that others believe it to be disinterest. It’s my Virgo Rising/Gemini-10th House. One of the things I later ask my crush is, “What made you finally come after me?” The responses are always the same, “I was afraid I might not see you again. ”

One of the first books I wrote was about having a crush on someone and getting them. “Jagger’s Revolution” was originally called, “The Love Crush”. It’s not a fantasy for me, it’s a dream come true. It was based on the premise of having a crush on someone that you couldn’t shake and it starts to drive you mad as you’re stuck with kissing all of these frogs that mean nothing to you, and the one you want doesn’t even know you exist. But in my real life world I actually get the crush the same way the character in “Sixteen Candles” does. The humility part of me sets in when I realize they had a mutual crush on me too.

A crush pulverizes you ultimately if nothing transpires out of it and yet you keep crossing paths with them and nothing ever happens. It’s an exciting feeling until it leads to frustration and you don’t know how to stop it. You realize you have to shake it off and forget about it until bam they’re standing in front of you again and this time they’re wanting to talk. I’m caught off guard, “Okay, I’m listening.” It gradually evolves from there after endless months of wanting to give up. I’m that challenging to get close to that it takes my crushes months to finally seal the deal…….but nine times out of ten….they eventually do.

How do you know if your crush is into you or not?   Eventually work up the nerve to confess it regardless of reaction.  If it backfires and doesn’t go your way, then at least you know sooner than later. Get it out in the open, then it’s up to the crush to decide how to proceed.  If they’re not receptive or display a reaction you weren’t hoping for, then move on and let it go.  That should be the confirmation to release it.

Crushes are fun and they make you feel good.  That is up until they don’t such as when you’re wondering if you’re wasting your time.  You start to feel pain or frustration not knowing what to do.   This is why they’re called crushes, because they ultimately crush you if nothing evolves out of that state.

It’s beautiful to feel an unexplainable attraction to someone and not know why. My crushing feelings tend to subside if nothing comes of it or I don’t see them for a period of time.  It’s out of sight out of mind, until they’re in front of me again and then the feelings and attraction rise up all over again.

The crushes I’ve obtained did tell me in the end what made them come at me at full force and their reasoning was the ‘fear they might never’ see me again.

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Empowerment, inspirational and self-help books by Kevin Hunter
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The Venus Retrograde Pushes You to Re-evaluate All Relationships

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Venus is about to move retrograde this Saturday March 4th. It’ll be 40 days of reverting back to the drawing board where love, relationships, beauty, and money are concerned. The energy of the Venus Retrograde prompts one to reflect on those issues in a deeper way and examining where changes needs to be made.

The negative side effects to the Venus Retrograde can be a sudden tendency to feel greatly neglected, unloved, or be unable to love. Co-dependency and neediness will rise up to the surface. Examining ones overall sense of self and appearance to an unhealthy degree will become the theme from March-April.

Many relationships tend to break apart during a Venus Retrograde. These are the connections that were already on unstable ground to begin with. A solid relationship can withstand the Venus Retrograde energy.

It is possible to easily fall in love with someone new during a Venus Retrograde transit, but it’s best to wait until after Venus has moved direct before making a move. The energy prompts one to view others through a rose colored lens that seems to drop away when Venus goes direct causing one to wonder what they were thinking.

The benefits of the Venus Retrograde is the taking a step back to evaluate all of your connections and needs. Which ones need to be boosted up, which ones need to be dissolved, or modified. Release unhealthy partnerships whether it be friendships or lovers. This is also a good time to dust off projects, business ideas, and bring anything to completion that needs to be wrapped up.

Exes and old friendships tend to pop back in during a Venus Retrograde. I’ve already had numerous past lovers and friends popping back in again over the last number of days in a big way. Nostalgic feelings rise amidst the sudden neediness energy and one tends to realize what they lost or what’s missing in a bigger way during this transit.

It’s ironic that the planet Venus in this solar system has such a huge effect on love and relationships, but the planet itself is deadly to live on.  One day on planet Venus equals to about 3 1/2 months of Earth time.  The atmosphere is extremely toxic made up of sulfuric acid and temperatures reaching almost 900 degrees, which is hot enough to melt lead. The planet has an eerie look to it and at times even appears to have a glow in the dark effect.


Empowerment, inspirational and self-help books by Kevin Hunter
are available in paperback and kindle wherever books are sold.

Jagger’s Revolution. The Summer Trashy Beach Read by Kevin Hunter.

Jagger’s Revolution

Jagger’s Revolution is a modern day love story about a tough beach thug on a hunt to conquer his love crush. Take a journey with Jagger through his dating dalliances and crushing love frustrations. He is surrounded by his colorful friends: The preppy book smart Troy, the high powered executive, Russell, and the sex loving and relationship hating Slade.

Dive into Jagger’s early years in a series of autobiographical essays revolving around the author’s love life including: The Five Year Old Incident, The High School Episode with Billy, Natasha: The Escort Chick, The Drug Conquest, Sage and The Vegas Stripper Club and Jagger’s Break as a Sex Columnist. Jagger is the alter ego of the author and he finds exhaustion with several dating entanglements that includes: Caden: the Malibu Cobra, the Skaterboy, The Englishman and The Professor.

All throughout his love, dating and sex scenarios, Jagger experiences the kind of crush and love one has as a teenager over Garth, the new lifeguard from Australia. He wrestles with an immediate silent connection with him and longs to get close.


Jagger’s Revolution
contains hard biting dating wisdom surrounded by true accounts of being slighted by love while craving for that perfect mate. If Jagger develops the courage to go for it, then he just might get his wish with his lifeguard dude in the end.

Reader Advisory Warning: “Jagger’s Revolution” contains some sexually graphic and explicit content.

Jagger’s Revolution is available in paperback and kindle wherever most books are sold.

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What readers have said about “Jagger’s Revolution”:

“Wow! I just read “Jagger’s Revolution”. Hot! Yum! It’s almost like a jerk off reading.”

“I hate reading, but this was the first book I actually finished all the way through since High School. It was great.”

“This book rocked my soul truly. I loved it.”

“It is hot over here and that book of yours only inflames things more.”

“This book was making me moist. I had to put it down because I was on a plane. It was embarrassing.”

Jagger’s Revolution was a beautiful story.”

“I finished reading Jagger’s Revolution. I almost felt guilty reading some of it. I was trying to come at it from an analytical perspective, but I couldn’t help but become secretly aroused by Jagger and his friends.”

“This book sort of gave me a ‘Rebel Without a Cause” feel, but with a lot more penetration. That wasn’t a bad feeling.”

“I love Jagger tearing around the corner. That guy is so hot. I want one.”

“I read your book and I get hard, then I get flaccid, then hard again. You say something that makes you stop and think, then it switches gears and I get hard again.”

“Eww you have sex with girls in your book. Yuck! But the Billy sex! Mmm! Instant hard on reading.”

“I read your book and it was really good by the way.”

“Wow Jagger’s Revolution was kind of a gay book, but with a sex and the city edge. Loved it!”

“Crawling under the sheets is an expression loosely used to describe that instance where you bare all, but you took it one step further with this book.”

“Nice transition at the coffee shop into Slade. I heard the voicemail beep and it was Slade. I had to read to find out who he is!!”

“Love your book!! Awesome erotic stuff 🙂 but you probably get that a lot.”

“Was impressed by the books eloquence and passion.”

“When you say gay friendships missing morality and loyalty.  Kevin you are right I agree.”

“Billy and Jagger.  Hot scene Kevin.  I had visuals”

~  Kevin Hunter

www.kevin-hunter.com

Empowerment, inspirational and self-help books by Kevin Hunter
are available in paperback and kindle wherever books are sold.


  

Supreme Court Legalizes Same Sex Marriage in the United States. This was predicted in my book, “Warrior of Light”.

The Supreme Court announced today that they have legalized Same Sex Marriage in the United States. This was predicted and mentioned in my book, “Warrior of Light” and “Divine Messages for Humanity” years ago. It was one of the circumstances my Spirit team said was coming. This is fantastic news for committed same sex couples who desire to take their love to a higher level by joining into a legally recognized marriage.

While Marriage Equality is a positive step in evolving humanity in the direction of love, it doesn’t mean much will change right away. Those who hate you for being different from them will continue to hate you. The interracial marriage ban was knocked down by the Supreme Court in 1967. It’s been nearly 50 years later and people are still racist. Marriage Equality is the law of the United States, but there is little love that exists in so many hearts. This is something that needs to continue to be worked on.

Side note: In another lifetime, I was allegedly a Merchant Marine who was also a homophobic prick. I would rally everyone up to harm anyone who was gay or of a different race. I was killed in the boiler room on the ship I was a part of when it blew up. I was 25 years old and left behind my wife and son. The irony is that same energy that I put into rallying up the masses in hate then, I now in this lifetime preach and put towards love.

~  Kevin Hunter

www.kevin-hunter.com

Empowerment, inspirational and self-help books by Kevin Hunter
are available in paperback and kindle wherever books are sold.


  

You may want to meet your soul mate, but you may not be aware that you have already met several of your soul mates

You may want to meet your soul mate, but you may not be aware that you have already met several of your soul mates. Your soul mate can be a family member, an acquaintance, a business colleague, a friend or a relationship lover. It can be someone you met in passing and had a profound two hour conversation with. Soul mates are put in your path for the purpose of your growth. You both have something to learn from the other one that will benefit the progress of your soul. You will also know if someone is your soul mate if they challenge you in a way that prompts you to make positive life changes. They bring elements to the connection that the other one lacks. They may get you to take a good hard look at what you need to change in your life in order to be happier. They might push you to accomplish your dreams or improve your life in beautiful ways. “Soul Mates and Twin Flames” – http://tinyurl.com/lc79mbs

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Empowerment, inspirational and self-help books by Kevin Hunter
are available in paperback and kindle wherever books are sold.


  

With online dating, there is no relationship until you’ve met in person

Virtual online dating has its challenges as well as benefits. Many grow hooked on those they’re chatting, texting or phoning with, but until you’ve met in person face to face, you are not in a relationship!  End of story.  There are always exceptions, but I don’t observe exceptions only generalities.  Exceptions can be said about anything that exists.

I know more about love and relationships than anyone I’ve ever met in my entire life, and I’ve met a lot of people.  I was born knowing about all things love.  I’ve been the go to person and have been counseling others in abundance on relationships since I was teenager.  I’ve been researching, experimenting, writing about it and diving into love and relationships throughout the course of my life.

There is NO RELATIONSHIP until you’ve met in person.  There is no way to justify it.  If you have not met in person, then you are not in a relationship.  I’ve witnessed way too many people fall into this trap repeatedly only to result in heart break.  You are simply getting to know one another.  I don’t care how often you’ve texted or spoke on the phone.  All of that is thrown out the window until you meet in person.  I receive so many cases where others have grown way too attached, hot, and heavy with someone virtually and by phone before meeting in person.  Then they meet in person and it starts to deteriorate after that and they don’t understand why.  When you are detached about your online dalliance and have no expectations, then you stand a greater chance of it turning into a success.  You do not call it a love relationship until you’ve spent time together in person.

Love Related Books
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Soul Mates and Twin Flames
Jagger’s Revolution

~  Kevin Hunter

www.kevin-hunter.com

Empowerment, inspirational and self-help books by Kevin Hunter
are available in paperback and kindle wherever books are sold.


  

I think I’ve been a gentleman long enough to finally earn a piece of that – Kevin Hunter

Kevin Hunter - Column - Dude Habits
This one dude was quietly courting me. Although he wasn’t terribly direct about it because you would never know that’s what he was up to. Every month or so I’d get a text from him seeing how I was doing. Eventually he’d work it up to, “Hey want to hang out.” I tell him I’d love to. This went on for six months.  When we didn’t talk for a couple months he came back around again asking me to dinner. I thought why not I’m still single. Going out should be fine. Well that night he has a few drinks more than usual and gets real comfortable and starts kissing me. Long story short. We have sex. He later tells me, “I think I’ve been a gentleman long enough to finally earn a piece of that.”  Oh you sweet talker you.

Although I appreciate his ability to wait it out, I realized that I was never quite all that into him as much as he was into me.  This is where you have to be careful. What do you do when you enjoy someone and you’re attracted to them, but you don’t see a ‘relationship’ with them anywhere in the equation. They’re simply just someone to have fun with until the REAL relationship comes in. The problem is he sees you as that guy. This is where you better back out and fast. You both have to be on the same level or you’ll have a blow up ahead.  So that’s what I did.

© 2011 Kevin Hunter’s Sex Column

He Saw the Bulge In My Pants – Kevin Hunter

Kevin Hunter - Column - Dude Habits
My buddy comes over to talk to me. I’m sitting down. He’s leaning over me a little bit whispering something private about something.  He looks down my body for a split second and says, “Whoa that’s a nice view.”

I look down confused. I’m wearing jeans and sitting with my legs apart, and there it is, the shape of my cock bulging under it. I abruptly close my legs and pull my chair under my desk.
“Oops” I say. I don’t blush, because I don’t get all that embarrassed, but I did laugh. “Sorry” I ad.

“Hey don’t apologize, that’s god’s gift.” He reminds me.


Kevin Hunter’s Book Jagger’s Revolution

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Kevin Hunter is the dude-lit author of the hit beach book, “Jagger’s Revolution”

Kevin Hunter is the author of the hit beach read, “Jagger’s Revolution“.

“Ever wanted to recapture that feeling you had in High School when you had the crush on that boy from the football team?  That feeling slowly fades as you get older, but its a feeling we long for.  Kevin Hunter brings that feeling back with the uncompromising protagonist Jagger.  An unlikely guy to feel any kind of crush as his strength is times ten and he couldn’t imagine putting himself into that vulnerable state.  Love isn’t something you can control.  When you get a crush there is no stopping it and he stops at nothing to land in from the eyes of the hot local lifeguard.”

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