Posted by Kevin Hunter
Should I unfriend or block my ex on social media?
Should you unfriend or block your ex on social media? That’s a question I’ve been receiving in abundance over the years. What should you do?
The #1 rule to do if an ex broke up with you is to stop contacting them. Arguing, pleading, or crying is not going to make them change their mind. If someone chose to leave you, then they already had it in their mind to do so long before they officially did it. If you were the one that was left, then that should wake you up to say, “Wait a minute, you don’t like me? You don’t want to be with me? Well, that just killed my erection.” It should be a turn off when someone decides they no longer want to be with you. Unfortunately, for some that’s easier said then done. There are numerous reasons as to why someone chooses to leave you, so we’ll stick with generalities.
A part of you might feel like there is a chance that you could get back together with your ex. Maybe the break up was premature or there were some minor issues that broke it up where the possibility of reconcilement is not an outlandish notion. Grounds for firing and eliminating them would be repetitive abuse of any kind or cheating, but if neither of those was the cause for break up, then you might feel there is a chance you could get back together at a later date.
If you have zero feelings for your ex and have no interest in ever getting back together with them, but you don’t hate them, then it’s harmless to keep them on your social media page. You won’t be bothered seeing their posts or seeing them post photos of them with new lovers should that happen eventually. If you’re not interested in getting your ex back, then it doesn’t matter if you leave them on your social media account or not.
For those that want their ex back, then the first answer is to unfriend them. Part of not contacting them means they’re not constantly in your face everytime you log into your social media account. You might even choose to go so far as to block them, so you can’t get into a game where they are trying to re-add you. When someone chooses to leave you, then that should be a turn off. If you still feel there is the possibility of rekindling the flame, then you need to not contact them period ever. If they can’t see you, then there is a greater possibility of them missing you and realizing where did he/she go and what have I done?
Some people want to keep their exes on their page for a few reasons. One is that they fear if they unfriend or block them, then the ex will forget about them. That is not likely to happen if someone felt strong intense love feelings about you at one point. The love may fade for a bit, but deep love never really goes away even if both people have broken up and carried on with new separate lives.
The second reason that some want to keep the ex on their page is to get the ex riled up by posting great posts or photos of you moving on in life and having a great time without them. This will make them wonder and potentially make them jealous. The flipside is you may also see them doing the same thing. They may put up posts showing what a great time they’re having as a single person. You might see them post photos of themselves with other potential love interests, or they’ll even change their status to ‘in a relationship’. If you know that you will not get upset or fly into a rage at them over seeing those posts, then it’s safe to keep them on your page. But if you know that you won’t be able to control yourself should you potentially see something that upsetting, then unfriend the ex.
One of the nice features of Facebook specifically is that if you don’t want to unfriend someone for whatever reason, you are given the option to unfollow them or you can hide their posts. There is a button in the upper right hand corner that allows you to hide someone’s posts. This shows their posts to you infrequently or not at all for a lengthy period of time. The person you do that to will not know you’ve done that and they will still remain in your friends list. What that also means is they will rarely if ever see your posts either.
You may choose to take no action at all and just leave them on your social media account knowing that you might consider getting back together with them at a later date if that becomes an option. This will not prevent your ex from choosing to hide your posts, unfollow you, or unfriend, and possibly block you. There could be three potential reasons as to why they might have done that. Two of those reasons might be concerning, while the third reason works in your favor.
If they choose to hide your posts, unfollow, unfriend, or block you, then that’s because they’re officially done with you, are moving on, and want no contact with you. The other reason is they don’t want to have to worry about what they’re posting and if it will upset you. The third reason, which is more in your favor in this case, is that they’ve done that because it’s too painful to have you in front of them all the time on social media since they still have deep intense feelings for you. Or they don’t want to get emotionally upset if you post something that could rile them up. Of course there is no real way to know which one of those is the reason they would’ve done that. All you can do is stand back, disappear, go on with life, and let time pass to see what ends up transpiring as a result or not.
Do not check out your exes social media page. Stay away from their page, no matter how tempted you are to see what’s going on. Also, don’t like and especially do not comment on their posts. Do the best you can to ignore the posts and scroll past it on your wall. I know you may have a tough time following that, but do the best you can. Checking out your exes page causes psychological distress, lowers your vibration, and tampers with your well-being. The distress expands the more you still want them or the more trouble have with moving on. You need to look at it as if the connection is done, over, the end.
As someone who has been around the block quite a bit, with that comes an enormous amount of experience. I have had exes come back, so I’m not just blowing around hot air. I generally stick to discussing content that I’ve experienced firsthand, then I pass it onto you or anyone interested. One of my exes came back to me three weeks after our break up, then again after a year and a half went by. Another ex I was involved with broke up with me. Three and a half years later passed and we ended up back together again and the relationship was better the second time around and lasted longer. Another ex came looking for me thirteen years after we broke up, and another ex of mine came looking for me twenty-years later. I know that’s a quite a number of exes, but to be clear there have been six long term relationships. And the point is that every single one of my exes came back.
What did I do to get the exes back? Nothing. I wasn’t trying to get back with them. I moved on. I ignored them. I worked on forgetting about them. I continued on living life. The not seeing me or hearing from me indefinitely was beyond dreadful to them apparently. Maybe they didn’t know how to be in a relationship at the time when we were together, maybe they made a mistake breaking up, but in the end they all realized they could not have me permanently gone. What does that do for me? What if I’m not okay with that?
In the beginning, after the break up I did disappear. There was no way in Hell I was going to have their life shit in front of me. However, because so much time had passed after the break ups with my exes, any painful wounds on my part had healed, so it didn’t bother me on a negative emotional level to have them wanting to hang around and be in contact at a much later date. I didn’t care if they were on a date with someone because I had zero interest in wanting them back.
If you’re not in that space yet where that would be okay for you, then unfriend the ex from social media, or at least hide their posts so that you never see what they’re posting, but they’re still in your friends list. You have to emotionally train yourself to be strong, have resilience, not contact them, and stay away. Over time, if the relationship is intended to evolve into a new brighter relationship AFTER you’ve both healed and worked on yourselves, then that will happen naturally on its own time.
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Love Party of One, Soul Mates and Twin Flames,
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Love Party of One
Surviving the Pitfalls of Dating and Relationships in a Loveless World
Love Party of One examines the current love and dating world and what to expect for anyone struggling with being single and longing for love. Author, Kevin Hunter, is a love expert in love with all things surrounding the word love since he arrived on this planet. He has been out in the field studying the human condition since he was a teenager. This has included conducting social experiments as well as diving head first into the areas of love and dating in his own personal life.
One of the ways of surviving modern day dating and relationships in a loveless world is by armoring yourself with knowledge. This includes knowledge over the way things currently are. You’ve went to psychic readers, you’ve cast spells, you put yourself out there, did the vision boards, the crystal meditations, and other love rituals presented to you, but you still find you’re desperately wishing the person of your dreams was here already. You grow cynical as if it will never happen and that you just have to accept the fact that perhaps it’s not in the cards. Dating is a battlefield, be prepared to get dirty.
Kevin Hunter is best known for his endless array of spiritually based books. In Love Party of One, he answers some of the practical issues that readers posed regarding their personal conflicts in the current dating market. This is a non-denominational book with some light spiritual slang for anyone struggling as a single person in a loveless world. This is regardless of age, background, or whether you are straight, bi, gay, male, or female. The dating market is an equal opportunity killer and no soul is exempt from the challenges they face when it comes to love.
Some of the topics discussed surround technological dating, falling in love with someone you’ve never met, codependency, exes, communicating, compromise, sex, marriage, monogamy vs. adultery, ageism, and more!
Note from the Author
The majority of my published works to date are spiritually based empowerment books called the Warrior of Light series of books. They are infused with practical messages and guidance that my Spirit team has taught and shared with me revolving around many different topics. The main goal of those books is to fine tune your body, mind, and soul. This improves humanity one person at a time. You are a Divine communicator and perfectly adjusted and capable of receiving messages from spirit as anyone else in the world.
One of the top two questions I receive from readers surrounds the topics of love and relationships, while the other revolves around career. Love and relationships are a major concern and theme for so many people. The struggles one wades through in attempting to navigate through a loveless world has made love challenging to obtain or keep.
Although the bulk of material I’ve written are spiritually based empowerment works, I have nevertheless been out in the relationship and dating field my entire life. Not only was I born having a basic understanding of the human condition, but I also came here as a love guide. I’ve taken this knowledge out into the dating field studying, researching, and interviewing countless people about their ordeals in the love department. I love all things love.
I, along with my Spirit team, enjoy seeing people investing in happy committed love bonds because this world doesn’t have enough love in it as it is. I’ve also been out in the field dating and having relationships of various levels from short term, to long term, to committed, to non-committed. I’ve had sexual encounters and one night stands. I’ve had the kind of love that others dream about, but never obtain. I’ve experienced what it’s like to be a natural Don Juan Casanova type. I’ve sat down, discussed, and counseled people from all walks of life about their tribulations of being single, dating, and in love relationships.
My entire life has been devoted to all circumstances revolving around the word love. Others have commented how comfortable they feel around me enough to reveal their deepest and darkest issues that include all things connected to love relationships. When others are with me they have protested they are divulging information they wouldn’t normally say to anyone else. Through this process, I’ve gained extensive knowledge of the difficulties that many are faced with in the current modern day dating world. I understand the practical realities that exist, but I also have spiritual knowledge, guidance, and wisdom to share as to how that applies to the souls of today on Earth.
Heartbreak is an equal opportunity killer regardless if you’re male, female, gay, straight, bi, or whatever you identify to be in this lifetime. In the end, it is irrelevant since all human souls experience the same heartbreak and rejection issues as any other. There hasn’t been one person who has never been slighted by love. If there is I would love to meet that person.
One of my first published pieces was a story loosely based on true accounts on having a crush on someone in my book, Jagger’s Revolution. It was partially autobiographical and partially thrown in drama at the beginning of my career as an author. This is where the lines are blurred to the extent that it would be difficult to detect which is real and what is fiction. I’ve also written a spiritually based book on love and relationships that is the opposite end of that spectrum called, Soul Mates and Twin Flames.
I’ve been studying, researching, experimenting, and counseling people on love and relationships since my teenage years. I’ve also assisted countless numbers of people through the treacherous waters of romance. This is regardless of my own personal love life trajectory. I have definitely walked into challenging personal love relationship situations knowing what I’m getting myself into.
As a lifelong incurable romantic and love addict, I love all things connected to LOVE. It far supersedes the opposite extreme, which is lonely, isolating, addicting, and disconnected. I’ve always admired couples that have been together for decades and yet continue to remain loving and supportive with one another.
I wanted to write a book that centered around the realities of dating in today’s challenging technologically based world and what it’s like without sugar coating it. I’m not one who glosses over the darkness no matter what the content is. What sometimes comes out of me as a strong opinion is divinely guided from my Wise One spiritual team, but put into my own words. The information I convey with almost an assault like quality at times is from above to help others navigate through the distressing waters they might find themselves in.
Love Party of One is not necessarily a spiritually based book, even though there may be some hints of it sprinkled throughout, but much of the practical input is divinely guided through a sense of clear knowing, otherwise known as Claircognizance and clear hearing through my Clairaudience channel. The content includes the practical hardships others have faced in the love and relationship world and what to expect if you’re embarking into your teenage years, young adulthood, or new to the current dating relationship world.
There are many people who have faced the ending of a long term relationship. These are connections that have lasted years and some even decades. They head back out there into the dating world only to discover it’s vastly changed. This may shed some light on the way things have become.
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Empowerment, inspirational and self-help books by Kevin Hunter are available in paperback and kindle wherever books are sold.
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