Posted by Kevin Hunter
Love that lasts a lifetime is something you don’t hear much today. You mostly hear about the relationships that break up and how the couple had a good run of a couple years like it’s a TV series that got cancelled. That isn’t anything to brag about. You rarely hear much about the couples that have stood the test of time and continue to endure a love that lasts a lifetime.
Bono, the rocker of one of my all time favorite bands U2, will be celebrating his 35 year anniversary with his wife Alison Hewson this August 2017. The cherry on top is that they’re just as romantic and in love with one another today as they were all those decades ago. One of the proofs of that is they recently went on another date to celebrate the first day they had their first date….40 years ago!
Recently, someone asked what kind of relationship two Chinese Oxen born would be together, as I’m a Chinese Ox. They wondered if it would be challenging, but on the contrary. The Chinese Ox born are strong minded, strong willed people, but they’re also the most loyal people of all the animals, and you never want to cross that loyalty as they NEVER forget. Their occasional rage never lets you forget. If it’s a sure thing, they stay.
Bono and Alison are both Chinese Oxen born too, so they’re a beautiful picture image of an Oxen duo that stick with each other until the end through good times and bad. Like any couple, they had their challenges a few years into their marriage where Bono and his band U2 were getting crazy out of control with their success and touring. They released one of the most iconic rock albums in music history named after one my favorite desert destinations they visited, “The Joshua Tree.”
One of the big hits off that album was the classic, “With or Without You”, which Bono wrote for his wife. At the time, it documented the push and pull confusion he was having between the love for his music and being on the road, but also tormented by having this strong domesticated interest and draw to his wife that he wanted to be close too as well. He soon realized that he could put the demons to rest and have both his love and art, as well as his marriage.
In a recent acceptance speech for an award he said, “I asked my wife, Ali, tonight on receiving this award what I should say. And she just repeated what she’s been telling me since we were teenagers, which is, ‘Don’t look down at me, but don’t look up at me either. Look across to me. I’m here.'”
Meaning they are EQUAL. No one is better or less than the other and they’re on this magic carpet ride together. He said that it wasn’t love at first sight for her, she had to work up to that. That’s because while the Ox will more than likely last a lifetime with you, getting to that is almost impossible. It takes a lot of work to get their attention, and then get them to come around is even harder, but once they do start coming around, they never leave.
I’ve met many couples over the years who tell me they’ve been together 10 years, 17 years, 22 years, 31 years, 44 years, and my reaction is always the same. A slight half smile forms and a hazy mist creates a blurry shield over my eyes. It’s the similar pleased reaction Heaven has when they see two souls who have not forgotten to love. ❤️💞🙏
One of the best live performances of the song, With or Without You:
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