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Getting riled up over sensational gossip media pieces does nothing to help anybody.

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Some tend to get angrily riled up over something a public figure said or did in the media. This does nothing to change that person and it doesn’t resolve anything. You don’t know them and you’re not in their house having a conversation with them. Instead your aura marinates in that toxic cesspool energy that doesn’t hurt the target. It hurts you and your well-being, while simultaneously blocking heavenly spirit guidance from coming in.

This dark energy flows into the cells of your body and gets lodged in there when improperly channeled. If that anger is a daily pattern or left unchecked, then it can manifest into something more harmful such as a breeding ground for future diseases and health issues. When you’re in the epicenter of that developed hurricane of toxicity forming in and around you due to your own words, feelings, and thoughts, then it’s difficult to be aware that you are. Dark energy blinds you to the truth. When one falls into the deep seed of repetitive anger, they are out of their minds, and oblivious to how far down the rabbit hole they’ve fallen. They later realize that it’s been one thing after another going wrong in their life and unaware of how or why it grew at such an astronomical rate.

The best way to counteract this is by avoiding the media. Stop seeking out salacious top trending headlines designed to attract, entice, and lure you in. The ego loves drama because it’s designed to get you caught in its web preventing you from seeking out more positive activities to focus on. Using discernment and good judgment over what is worth knowing and what is something that is out of your hands.

There are a number of people around me who don’t get involved in gossip or media to the point that they really don’t know what everyone is arguing about, and they like it that way. Unless your job is a position that requires you to correct certain issues you’re passionate about, then there is no benefit to joining in with the crowd to argue about the latest dramatic news story. You’re either preaching to the choir or you’re not. The ones who don’t agree won’t be swayed so it’s a time waster.

100% of the time what people are arguing and gossiping about is forgotten within 1-3 days as another enticing headline flies to the top of the list to attract in their focus. It can take practice and enormous willpower to not be tempted to read certain types of articles. That practice includes immediately knowing whether something is a gossip piece or is an objective balanced news piece focused on straight neutral reporting. If everytime you get riled up over pieces put up by a particular news source, then it’s time to step away from that source for awhile in order to get re-centered and re-directed on more important priorities that will ultimately bring you joy and peace.


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Should I unfriend or block my ex on social media?

Should I unfriend or block my ex on social media?

Should you unfriend or block your ex on social media? That’s a question I’ve been receiving in abundance over the years. What should you do?

The #1 rule to do if an ex broke up with you is to stop contacting them. Arguing, pleading, or crying is not going to make them change their mind. If someone chose to leave you, then they already had it in their mind to do so long before they officially did it.   If you were the one that was left, then that should wake you up to say, “Wait a minute, you don’t like me?   You don’t want to be with me? Well, that just killed my erection.” It should be a turn off when someone decides they no longer want to be with you. Unfortunately, for some that’s easier said then done. There are numerous reasons as to why someone chooses to leave you, so we’ll stick with generalities.

A part of you might feel like there is a chance that you could get back together with your ex.   Maybe the break up was premature or there were some minor issues that broke it up where the possibility of reconcilement is not an outlandish notion.   Grounds for firing and eliminating them would be repetitive abuse of any kind or cheating, but if neither of those was the cause for break up, then you might feel there is a chance you could get back together at a later date.

If you have zero feelings for your ex and have no interest in ever getting back together with them, but you don’t hate them, then it’s harmless to keep them on your social media page. You won’t be bothered seeing their posts or seeing them post photos of them with new lovers should that happen eventually. If you’re not interested in getting your ex back, then it doesn’t matter if you leave them on your social media account or not.

For those that want their ex back, then the first answer is to unfriend them. Part of not contacting them means they’re not constantly in your face everytime you log into your social media account. You might even choose to go so far as to block them, so you can’t get into a game where they are trying to re-add you. When someone chooses to leave you, then that should be a turn off. If you still feel there is the possibility of rekindling the flame, then you need to not contact them period ever.   If they can’t see you, then there is a greater possibility of them missing you and realizing where did he/she go and what have I done?

Some people want to keep their exes on their page for a few reasons. One is that they fear if they unfriend or block them, then the ex will forget about them.   That is not likely to happen if someone felt strong intense love feelings about you at one point. The love may fade for a bit, but deep love never really goes away even if both people have broken up and carried on with new separate lives.

The second reason that some want to keep the ex on their page is to get the ex riled up by posting great posts or photos of you moving on in life and having a great time without them. This will make them wonder and potentially make them jealous. The flipside is you may also see them doing the same thing. They may put up posts showing what a great time they’re having as a single person. You might see them post photos of themselves with other potential love interests, or they’ll even change their status to ‘in a relationship’. If you know that you will not get upset or fly into a rage at them over seeing those posts, then it’s safe to keep them on your page. But if you know that you won’t be able to control yourself should you potentially see something that upsetting, then unfriend the ex.

One of the nice features of Facebook specifically is that if you don’t want to unfriend someone for whatever reason, you are given the option to unfollow them or you can hide their posts. There is a button in the upper right hand corner that allows you to hide someone’s posts. This shows their posts to you infrequently or not at all for a lengthy period of time. The person you do that to will not know you’ve done that and they will still remain in your friends list. What that also means is they will rarely if ever see your posts either.

You may choose to take no action at all and just leave them on your social media account knowing that you might consider getting back together with them at a later date if that becomes an option. This will not prevent your ex from choosing to hide your posts, unfollow you, or unfriend, and possibly block you. There could be three potential reasons as to why they might have done that. Two of those reasons might be concerning, while the third reason works in your favor.

If they choose to hide your posts, unfollow, unfriend, or block you, then that’s because they’re officially done with you, are moving on, and want no contact with you. The other reason is they don’t want to have to worry about what they’re posting and if it will upset you. The third reason, which is more in your favor in this case, is that they’ve done that because it’s too painful to have you in front of them all the time on social media since they still have deep intense feelings for you. Or they don’t want to get emotionally upset if you post something that could rile them up.   Of course there is no real way to know which one of those is the reason they would’ve done that. All you can do is stand back, disappear, go on with life, and let time pass to see what ends up transpiring as a result or not.

Do not check out your exes social media page. Stay away from their page, no matter how tempted you are to see what’s going on.  Also, don’t like and especially do not comment on their posts.  Do the best you can to ignore the posts and scroll past it on your wall.  I know you may have a tough time following that, but do the best you can.  Checking out your exes page causes psychological distress, lowers your vibration, and tampers with your well-being. The distress expands the more you still want them or the more trouble have with moving on. You need to look at it as if the connection is done, over, the end.

As someone who has been around the block quite a bit, with that comes an enormous amount of experience.  I have had exes come back, so I’m not just blowing around hot air. I generally stick to discussing content that I’ve experienced firsthand, then I pass it onto you or anyone interested. One of my exes came back to me three weeks after our break up, then again after a year and a half went by. Another ex I was involved with broke up with me. Three and a half years later passed and we ended up back together again and the relationship was better the second time around and lasted longer. Another ex came looking for me thirteen years after we broke up, and another ex of mine came looking for me twenty-years later. I know that’s a quite a number of exes, but to be clear there have been six long term relationships.  And the point is that every single one of my exes came back.

What did I do to get the exes back? Nothing. I wasn’t trying to get back with them. I moved on. I ignored them. I worked on forgetting about them. I continued on living life. The not seeing me or hearing from me indefinitely was beyond dreadful to them apparently. Maybe they didn’t know how to be in a relationship at the time when we were together, maybe they made a mistake breaking up, but in the end they all realized they could not have me permanently gone. What does that do for me? What if I’m not okay with that?

In the beginning, after the break up I did disappear. There was no way in Hell I was going to have their life shit in front of me.   However, because so much time had passed after the break ups with my exes, any painful wounds on my part had healed, so it didn’t bother me on a negative emotional level to have them wanting to hang around and be in contact at a much later date.   I didn’t care if they were on a date with someone because I had zero interest in wanting them back.

If you’re not in that space yet where that would be okay for you, then unfriend the ex from social media, or at least hide their posts so that you never see what they’re posting, but they’re still in your friends list. You have to emotionally train yourself to be strong, have resilience, not contact them, and stay away. Over time, if the relationship is intended to evolve into a new brighter relationship AFTER you’ve both healed and worked on yourselves, then that will happen naturally on its own time.

 

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Love is what kills energy like anger, sadness, fear, and worry.

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You come to the end of the road as you close the Earthly life chapter up realizing if you hadn’t at all before that it was always intended to be about love. Your soul was born from a source of love and you will die right back into that love. Love is the most powerful energy foundation that exists in all dimensions. The only thing that matters is love. The best way to channel energy positively is to remember all things connected to love. Love is what kills energy like anger, sadness, fear, and worry. Outstretch your arms, release any fears, and fall back into the arms of this love. Allow it to protect and guide you on your Earthly journey.


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You don’t get anything for free, you have to work for it.

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Don’t think about or entertain the word fear. If you want something, then go out and get it without skepticism or hesitation.   Usually when something positive is offered, the immediate response from some is that it’s easier said than done, but that mindset is pessimistic and negative.   It’s also a block guaranteeing that it will never happen.   If you find your response to something positive is countered with something negative, then work on being aware of that, then shift it into something positive immediately.   I’ve watched many over the decades reside in negativity and nothing ever happens for them, while those who have a positive mindset, I’ve witnessed good things constantly flowing around them.  There is something to this law of attraction business.

Who said getting what you want was going to be easy?  You need to have passion, be a fighter, and a shark to get what you want.   When I wanted something, I went after it and I eventually got it.   I had zero fear, zero training, zero experience, zero time, zero money, and zero support, but I went after it fearlessly and I got it.   I focus in on what I want and I work harder than anyone I’ve come across, and I get it, so I don’t want to hear that it’s easier than done, or that it can’t be done.   Pull yourself up by your bootstraps, do your best to work hard to get what you want.   I’ve also never had anything handed to me, I’ve had to work for it or it wouldn’t transpire.  If I entertained that rare doubt, then what I was focusing on wouldn’t happen or a whirlwind of negative circumstances and delays popped up.  I’ve been testing this out my entire life and wouldn’t feed anybody anything that didn’t work for me first.   I can’t stand behind anything I’m not experienced with firsthand.

The Universe and your Spirit team is not going to hand you anything for free.  They help those that help themselves.  They open doors for those they see are doing their best to put in an effort, regardless if that person is a believer in a higher power or not.

 


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Maintain your souls innate state of peace amidst challenges

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One of the greatest challenges you’ll have in your life is maintaining peace. That includes getting along with people that are different from you. You’re presented with numerous opportunities that can easily upset you. Say, “I have peace.” You may not feel peaceful, but this isn’t about what you feel, it’s what you have that is innate within you. You are born peaceful. 

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You are born in a perfect state of high vibrational energy. Somewhere along the way Earthly life circumstances shake your faith and your vibration, but when you’re conscious of when this happens, then you can quickly re-align your vibration. I understand how hard that can be for those that live tougher stress filled lives. No one is exempt from Earthly life challenges, including the rich and famous. Even they are faced with their own challenges that might be similar or dissimilar to yours on a personal level outside of having financial riches. No one gets a free pass from challenges.


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Lay low this week as we move through the peak of this months intensity

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We’re on the final week of the extreme intensity many have been experiencing this past month. Anxieties, depression, uncontrollable emotions, and fears have risen to an astronomical degree with no more room to climb, but we’re not out of the woods yet. Tuesday thru Thursday will see the peak of this tension, so guard your soul with your life keeping anyone away that can easily aggravate it. Continue to hold off on making any serious decisions until at least the end of the week. Stay centered in grace allowing room for your higher consciousness to come through in order to light the way.

 


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Still in the middle of the hurricane storm of the Mercury Retrograde

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I’ve literally been hit up back to back today by a numerous amount of people experiencing a really difficult time. It’s one after the other from extreme heartache, to anxiety, to a life force that has become void.

This is a reminder it is all Mercury Retrograde related. I’ve been preaching about the transit since I was a child and I know it well. What’s being experienced is part of the challenging side effects the transit brings on. Can’t tell you how often I’ve warned others about it only to watch them ignore that warning and do the opposite. The result is that it backfires in their face in an even worse way.

Making any serious decisions during this time or expecting a positive result about an action now more than likely will not go well or the result will be temporary. As I’ve always said, the Mercury Retrograde is a time to lay low and go back to clean house literally and metaphorically. We are still in the storm of the Mercury Retrograde and circumstances will not begin to lighten up until after the first week of September.

Sometimes events happen beyond your control during this transit, but regardless of that it doesn’t mean those events will be easy. Most of what is storming up during the transit will begin to evaporate after Mercury moves direct and suddenly everything starts to level out as the plane soars out of the storm into clearer skies.

 


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Solar Eclipse New Moon focus should be on self care.

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The next number of days should be self-care focused taking care of YOU. It’s been an intense couple of weeks with the recent Lunar Eclipse and Mercury shifting into its retrograde path. Now that we’re deep in the Mercury Retrograde soaring backwards, use the next number of days to focus on giving compassion to all parts of your ‘self’

We’re in for a slight lift with the powerful New Moon Solar Eclipse shift on Monday. Mercury is still retrograde, so delays are inevitable and patience is required, but the Elephant’s foot should be lifted off your chest to help you move about more smoothly this coming week.

NOTE: The Solar Eclipse can be seen in varying degrees for those living in North America on Monday, August 21st when the Moon travels in front of the Sun. This means it will suddenly get dark in the middle of the day or partially dark if you are in the U.S. specifically. I’m in Southern California so I will be able to see an 80% partial covering of the sun between 9:15a-12:15p pacific time.

If the Solar Eclipse will be travelling across your territory, remember not to look directly into the sun during the eclipse as it can cause damage. Sunglasses will NOT protect your eyes! You’ll need to purchase special Eclipse glasses for that. They are reasonably priced on Amazon. This is the first solar eclipse viewable in the US since 1979 with the next occurring in 2024.

For more info: https://eclipse2017.nasa.gov/eclipse-maps


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The consistent mantra to remember is to avoid drama and follow the path of love.

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I’ve been out of the loop that I have no idea what’s going on, but I do know that earlier in the week I sent out a pre-warning that this past weekend, “….will be an intensely testy one. It’s best to steer clear of anything that could potentially rattle you.”

Having been off the grid in serenity with my personal tribe for the last couple of days only to re-surface with being told about the world drama I gratefully missed. Literally had no idea as that’s how disconnected from it we all were choosing to reside in heavenly bliss. I have too much uplifting life living to have noticed, and prefer it that way. I can see which ones followed my team’s original prediction earlier in the week to lay low and which ones did not. 

The only thing pointed out over what transpired was a consistent flow of blame from all parties involved. It’s a common theme that plays out with the antagonists. They are in the midst of a perpetual darkness of ego merry go round cycle of mind numbing repetition unable to break away upward and onward into a balanced space of serenity. The answer is not blame or discord. The answer is always love. We’ll keep rubbing it in like a burning cigarette placed on your arm. The consistent mantra to remember is to avoid drama and follow the path of love.

 


Empowerment, inspirational and self-help books by Kevin Hunter
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It’s an inspiring feel good expanding inner warmth when Mother Mary is around.

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My relationship with Mary dates to childhood where I would obsessively pay homage to her image whenever I’d excitedly arrive at church as if I were going to a nightclub. A different and contradicting child, I was draped in rosary crucifixes, a filthy mouth, and a cocky arrogance that I will do what I want, when I want, without interference thank you very much.

Mary appears to me with this inspiring feel good inner warmth that continues to expand bigger than all the compassionate maternal beings of the world put together. The blazing sparkling rose and white light of love that shines around her outwardly like the sun is so intense that it overpowers her tiny 4’11” frame that fades into it.

The long running connection with Mary might not be surprising considering that one of my main guides Luke, who is of the Gospel of Luke, discusses Mary more than any other writer in the controversial book. His portrait of her is layered in detail with the most quotes than any other. He’s also the most educated, observant….and like myself – long winded.   His stories tended to be filled with the goal of ultimate healing, which shows he had more compassion for others than some of his counterparts in the book with their superstitious fear based dogma. When touched by Mary’s power, like her Son, it is unconditional love experienced that no words can describe.

I’m aware of the hardcore religious followers that have unfortunately given Jesus and Mary a bad name. I don’t know who they’re talking about to be honest, because the way they describe Jesus and Mary is so terribly inaccurate. For one, Jesus is not some tall blonde Chris Hemsworth model with gorgeous long locks and tight abs. The real Jesus Christ that lived was short and tan.

I’m not religious, but I am spiritual, which is no surprise at this point. When I went to Church regularly back in the day I wasn’t religious then either, I don’t recall anything negative at all associated with it from the negative words we hear today to the negative people who claim to be Jesus followers.  Either I was really lucky to not have heard any of that or I was just going to the right more accepting joyful churches that are based in all love.

If I ever did hear any form of negativity or lies and damnation, I would’ve left immediately. I don’t tolerate that today and I most certainly didn’t tolerate it then. I have no negative memories of that at the churches I went to. I also didn’t grow up in that kind of a household. In fact, my family were more agnostic and some were atheist. I was the unusual ‘connected’ one, which also shows that I had come to that conclusion on my own without any family interference or influence.

Many have recounted stories of how Mother Mary has appeared for them just when they needed it most.

 

 


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