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Address Issues With Assertive Compassion; Prepare for Some Cleansing Losses; Challenge Yourself

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Even the most centered person on the planet experiences negative feelings from time to time. When that happens, they can readily glide over it and move back into a focused detached emotional state, rather than dwelling in the toxicity of negative emotions. Address something with assertive compassion that needs to be addressed, then let it go and move on.

 

No automatic alt text available.The next few weeks may result in some losses particularly where people are concerned. It might be the loss of a lover, friend, colleague, or acquaintance. Sometimes those are people that needed to be extricated from your life anyway, but you were hesitant out of fear. The Universe will be taking care of that for you into April. At the same time, don’t be surprised to find that people from the past such as old flames or friendships start popping back in out of nowhere to either bring closure to the connection that never received it or to rekindle the union in a new way.

This will be a time of clarity gaining, broader perception seeking, and taking a step back to truly examine what you’re looking to do. Dust off and re-vise, re-plan, re-think, and re-do whatever it is that needs tending to, as this will be a great time to go backwards and clean up any accumulated cobwebs. It’s also a great time to meditate, spend more time in nature, relaxing, and allowing brilliant ideas to rise to the top. Just avoid acting on those great ideas until after Mid-April. Let go, let flow, and ride the next few weeks out by laying low and cleaning house literally and metaphorically.

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On a side personal note, I circuit train when I work out at the gym in Beverly Hills. This includes high intensity strength training. They changed the lighting in the place where it’s ridiculously bright. I absolutely cannot be in bright artificial light as my eyes are too sensitive. Now I wear sunglasses when I’m in there as I do in any place that’s too bright. I even wear them at night at times.

I asked them, “Why is it so bright as if you’re lighting a film set?” I texted a best friend about it and he says, “It’s Beverly Hills. They want to judge you.”

I’m not necessarily competitive while at the gym, but I will notice if a guy uses a machine after me and I’ll pay attention to where he moves the weights. If he adds more, then I sneer with that irritated resting bitch face. Not out of competition, but because I always strive to be better. However, I will calculate and compute his stats like age, height, weight, build, and will grade it that way. For instance if he’s a 22 year old with a 6’4” football build, then obviously I’m not gonna match that so I let it go. Although I will notice guys younger than me benching less, then I know I’m where I need to be.

 

 


Empowering, inspirational, enlightening, metaphysical, self-help
Kevin Hunter books 
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Fear is one of the leading causes of soul and personal failure

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Fear is one of the leading causes of soul and personal failure. It brings on paralysis, chaos, and procrastination. Overcoming fear requires awareness of what you’re attempting to defeat. Your consciousness needs to be awakened enough to allow you to see profound truths. No one can awaken your consciousness except you. It is the individual soul’s job to do the work, research, study, and experience in order to strengthen your soul essence. This means not following the masses, but breaking away from clinging to the collective to find your personal soul path. Even in war, I’m not going down.

 

 

 


Empowering, inspirational, enlightening, metaphysical, self-help
Kevin Hunter books 
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wherever books are sold.

Never Trade in Divine Talents for Popularity

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Don’t trade your god given talents and destiny for popularity with people. People see and judge the outside while Spirit goes beneath and looks at the heart. You never decide on people at a glance, but rather do your homework to understand them by diving beneath the surface. You can sit on a pew until your ass is flat, or surround yourself with crystals, put up motivational words, but that doesn’t make you Spiritual. If you want outer power, you need inner purity and harmony alignment with Spirit. Defend your Light with your life!

Those defending their Light and walking in it will find that they walk alone often.  It’s the price many are not willing to take.  I’m a Spirit pleaser, not a people pleaser.

God said to one of my guides, Samuel, “Do not look at his appearance or at his physical stature, because I have refused him. For I do not see as man sees. For man looks at the outward appearance, but I look at the heart.”


Empowering, inspirational, enlightening, metaphysical, self-help
Kevin Hunter books 
available in paperback and e-book
wherever books are sold.

Spiritual success far outweighs financial success in the end

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When one thinks of success they automatically equate it to money, but success is not always financial or monetary. The utmost form of success is how evolved your soul develops in one lifetime. Since this is the true measure of Spirit’s view of success, then you should thrive to push the billionaire mark. Rise above the world around you and dive deep into the depths of possibilities by working to expand your mind and consciousness. Seek out the vast reservoirs of wisdom, knowledge, and intelligence that the Universe holds.

 


Empowerment, inspirational and self-help books by Kevin Hunter
are available in paperback and kindle wherever books are sold.

Getting riled up over sensational gossip media pieces does nothing to help anybody.

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Some tend to get angrily riled up over something a public figure said or did in the media. This does nothing to change that person and it doesn’t resolve anything. You don’t know them and you’re not in their house having a conversation with them. Instead your aura marinates in that toxic cesspool energy that doesn’t hurt the target. It hurts you and your well-being, while simultaneously blocking heavenly spirit guidance from coming in.

This dark energy flows into the cells of your body and gets lodged in there when improperly channeled. If that anger is a daily pattern or left unchecked, then it can manifest into something more harmful such as a breeding ground for future diseases and health issues. When you’re in the epicenter of that developed hurricane of toxicity forming in and around you due to your own words, feelings, and thoughts, then it’s difficult to be aware that you are. Dark energy blinds you to the truth. When one falls into the deep seed of repetitive anger, they are out of their minds, and oblivious to how far down the rabbit hole they’ve fallen. They later realize that it’s been one thing after another going wrong in their life and unaware of how or why it grew at such an astronomical rate.

The best way to counteract this is by avoiding the media. Stop seeking out salacious top trending headlines designed to attract, entice, and lure you in. The ego loves drama because it’s designed to get you caught in its web preventing you from seeking out more positive activities to focus on. Using discernment and good judgment over what is worth knowing and what is something that is out of your hands.

There are a number of people around me who don’t get involved in gossip or media to the point that they really don’t know what everyone is arguing about, and they like it that way. Unless your job is a position that requires you to correct certain issues you’re passionate about, then there is no benefit to joining in with the crowd to argue about the latest dramatic news story. You’re either preaching to the choir or you’re not. The ones who don’t agree won’t be swayed so it’s a time waster.

100% of the time what people are arguing and gossiping about is forgotten within 1-3 days as another enticing headline flies to the top of the list to attract in their focus. It can take practice and enormous willpower to not be tempted to read certain types of articles. That practice includes immediately knowing whether something is a gossip piece or is an objective balanced news piece focused on straight neutral reporting. If everytime you get riled up over pieces put up by a particular news source, then it’s time to step away from that source for awhile in order to get re-centered and re-directed on more important priorities that will ultimately bring you joy and peace.


Empowerment, inspirational and self-help books by Kevin Hunter
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Should I unfriend or block my ex on social media?

Should I unfriend or block my ex on social media?

Should you unfriend or block your ex on social media? That’s a question I’ve been receiving in abundance over the years. What should you do?

The #1 rule to do if an ex broke up with you is to stop contacting them. Arguing, pleading, or crying is not going to make them change their mind. If someone chose to leave you, then they already had it in their mind to do so long before they officially did it.   If you were the one that was left, then that should wake you up to say, “Wait a minute, you don’t like me?   You don’t want to be with me? Well, that just killed my erection.” It should be a turn off when someone decides they no longer want to be with you. Unfortunately, for some that’s easier said then done. There are numerous reasons as to why someone chooses to leave you, so we’ll stick with generalities.

A part of you might feel like there is a chance that you could get back together with your ex.   Maybe the break up was premature or there were some minor issues that broke it up where the possibility of reconcilement is not an outlandish notion.   Grounds for firing and eliminating them would be repetitive abuse of any kind or cheating, but if neither of those was the cause for break up, then you might feel there is a chance you could get back together at a later date.

If you have zero feelings for your ex and have no interest in ever getting back together with them, but you don’t hate them, then it’s harmless to keep them on your social media page. You won’t be bothered seeing their posts or seeing them post photos of them with new lovers should that happen eventually. If you’re not interested in getting your ex back, then it doesn’t matter if you leave them on your social media account or not.

For those that want their ex back, then the first answer is to unfriend them. Part of not contacting them means they’re not constantly in your face everytime you log into your social media account. You might even choose to go so far as to block them, so you can’t get into a game where they are trying to re-add you. When someone chooses to leave you, then that should be a turn off. If you still feel there is the possibility of rekindling the flame, then you need to not contact them period ever.   If they can’t see you, then there is a greater possibility of them missing you and realizing where did he/she go and what have I done?

Some people want to keep their exes on their page for a few reasons. One is that they fear if they unfriend or block them, then the ex will forget about them.   That is not likely to happen if someone felt strong intense love feelings about you at one point. The love may fade for a bit, but deep love never really goes away even if both people have broken up and carried on with new separate lives.

The second reason that some want to keep the ex on their page is to get the ex riled up by posting great posts or photos of you moving on in life and having a great time without them. This will make them wonder and potentially make them jealous. The flipside is you may also see them doing the same thing. They may put up posts showing what a great time they’re having as a single person. You might see them post photos of themselves with other potential love interests, or they’ll even change their status to ‘in a relationship’. If you know that you will not get upset or fly into a rage at them over seeing those posts, then it’s safe to keep them on your page. But if you know that you won’t be able to control yourself should you potentially see something that upsetting, then unfriend the ex.

One of the nice features of Facebook specifically is that if you don’t want to unfriend someone for whatever reason, you are given the option to unfollow them or you can hide their posts. There is a button in the upper right hand corner that allows you to hide someone’s posts. This shows their posts to you infrequently or not at all for a lengthy period of time. The person you do that to will not know you’ve done that and they will still remain in your friends list. What that also means is they will rarely if ever see your posts either.

You may choose to take no action at all and just leave them on your social media account knowing that you might consider getting back together with them at a later date if that becomes an option. This will not prevent your ex from choosing to hide your posts, unfollow you, or unfriend, and possibly block you. There could be three potential reasons as to why they might have done that. Two of those reasons might be concerning, while the third reason works in your favor.

If they choose to hide your posts, unfollow, unfriend, or block you, then that’s because they’re officially done with you, are moving on, and want no contact with you. The other reason is they don’t want to have to worry about what they’re posting and if it will upset you. The third reason, which is more in your favor in this case, is that they’ve done that because it’s too painful to have you in front of them all the time on social media since they still have deep intense feelings for you. Or they don’t want to get emotionally upset if you post something that could rile them up.   Of course there is no real way to know which one of those is the reason they would’ve done that. All you can do is stand back, disappear, go on with life, and let time pass to see what ends up transpiring as a result or not.

Do not check out your exes social media page. Stay away from their page, no matter how tempted you are to see what’s going on.  Also, don’t like and especially do not comment on their posts.  Do the best you can to ignore the posts and scroll past it on your wall.  I know you may have a tough time following that, but do the best you can.  Checking out your exes page causes psychological distress, lowers your vibration, and tampers with your well-being. The distress expands the more you still want them or the more trouble have with moving on. You need to look at it as if the connection is done, over, the end.

As someone who has been around the block quite a bit, with that comes an enormous amount of experience.  I have had exes come back, so I’m not just blowing around hot air. I generally stick to discussing content that I’ve experienced firsthand, then I pass it onto you or anyone interested. One of my exes came back to me three weeks after our break up, then again after a year and a half went by. Another ex I was involved with broke up with me. Three and a half years later passed and we ended up back together again and the relationship was better the second time around and lasted longer. Another ex came looking for me thirteen years after we broke up, and another ex of mine came looking for me twenty-years later. I know that’s a quite a number of exes, but to be clear there have been six long term relationships.  And the point is that every single one of my exes came back.

What did I do to get the exes back? Nothing. I wasn’t trying to get back with them. I moved on. I ignored them. I worked on forgetting about them. I continued on living life. The not seeing me or hearing from me indefinitely was beyond dreadful to them apparently. Maybe they didn’t know how to be in a relationship at the time when we were together, maybe they made a mistake breaking up, but in the end they all realized they could not have me permanently gone. What does that do for me? What if I’m not okay with that?

In the beginning, after the break up I did disappear. There was no way in Hell I was going to have their life shit in front of me.   However, because so much time had passed after the break ups with my exes, any painful wounds on my part had healed, so it didn’t bother me on a negative emotional level to have them wanting to hang around and be in contact at a much later date.   I didn’t care if they were on a date with someone because I had zero interest in wanting them back.

If you’re not in that space yet where that would be okay for you, then unfriend the ex from social media, or at least hide their posts so that you never see what they’re posting, but they’re still in your friends list. You have to emotionally train yourself to be strong, have resilience, not contact them, and stay away. Over time, if the relationship is intended to evolve into a new brighter relationship AFTER you’ve both healed and worked on yourselves, then that will happen naturally on its own time.

 

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Love is what kills energy like anger, sadness, fear, and worry.

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You come to the end of the road as you close the Earthly life chapter up realizing if you hadn’t at all before that it was always intended to be about love. Your soul was born from a source of love and you will die right back into that love. Love is the most powerful energy foundation that exists in all dimensions. The only thing that matters is love. The best way to channel energy positively is to remember all things connected to love. Love is what kills energy like anger, sadness, fear, and worry. Outstretch your arms, release any fears, and fall back into the arms of this love. Allow it to protect and guide you on your Earthly journey.


Empowerment, inspirational and self-help books by Kevin Hunter
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You don’t get anything for free, you have to work for it.

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Don’t think about or entertain the word fear. If you want something, then go out and get it without skepticism or hesitation.   Usually when something positive is offered, the immediate response from some is that it’s easier said than done, but that mindset is pessimistic and negative.   It’s also a block guaranteeing that it will never happen.   If you find your response to something positive is countered with something negative, then work on being aware of that, then shift it into something positive immediately.   I’ve watched many over the decades reside in negativity and nothing ever happens for them, while those who have a positive mindset, I’ve witnessed good things constantly flowing around them.  There is something to this law of attraction business.

Who said getting what you want was going to be easy?  You need to have passion, be a fighter, and a shark to get what you want.   When I wanted something, I went after it and I eventually got it.   I had zero fear, zero training, zero experience, zero time, zero money, and zero support, but I went after it fearlessly and I got it.   I focus in on what I want and I work harder than anyone I’ve come across, and I get it, so I don’t want to hear that it’s easier than done, or that it can’t be done.   Pull yourself up by your bootstraps, do your best to work hard to get what you want.   I’ve also never had anything handed to me, I’ve had to work for it or it wouldn’t transpire.  If I entertained that rare doubt, then what I was focusing on wouldn’t happen or a whirlwind of negative circumstances and delays popped up.  I’ve been testing this out my entire life and wouldn’t feed anybody anything that didn’t work for me first.   I can’t stand behind anything I’m not experienced with firsthand.

The Universe and your Spirit team is not going to hand you anything for free.  They help those that help themselves.  They open doors for those they see are doing their best to put in an effort, regardless if that person is a believer in a higher power or not.

 


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Maintain your souls innate state of peace amidst challenges

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One of the greatest challenges you’ll have in your life is maintaining peace. That includes getting along with people that are different from you. You’re presented with numerous opportunities that can easily upset you. Say, “I have peace.” You may not feel peaceful, but this isn’t about what you feel, it’s what you have that is innate within you. You are born peaceful. 

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You are born in a perfect state of high vibrational energy. Somewhere along the way Earthly life circumstances shake your faith and your vibration, but when you’re conscious of when this happens, then you can quickly re-align your vibration. I understand how hard that can be for those that live tougher stress filled lives. No one is exempt from Earthly life challenges, including the rich and famous. Even they are faced with their own challenges that might be similar or dissimilar to yours on a personal level outside of having financial riches. No one gets a free pass from challenges.


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Lay low this week as we move through the peak of this months intensity

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We’re on the final week of the extreme intensity many have been experiencing this past month. Anxieties, depression, uncontrollable emotions, and fears have risen to an astronomical degree with no more room to climb, but we’re not out of the woods yet. Tuesday thru Thursday will see the peak of this tension, so guard your soul with your life keeping anyone away that can easily aggravate it. Continue to hold off on making any serious decisions until at least the end of the week. Stay centered in grace allowing room for your higher consciousness to come through in order to light the way.

 


Empowerment, inspirational and self-help books by Kevin Hunter
are available in paperback and kindle wherever books are sold.

 

 

 

 

 

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