You should have a zero tolerance policy for any meanness, negativity or drama from someone.
Posted by Kevin Hunter
Another question from a reader: “How can you keep showing love to someone when they are unkind to you?” You should have a zero tolerance policy for any meanness, negativity or drama from someone. There is a difference between loving someone from afar without getting caught up in their drama or toxic energy, to choosing to keep them at arm’s length if you don’t want them to go away. It might be a family member, parent, sibling, friend or colleague. It can be someone where it’s seemingly not easy to cut them out of your life permanently. Because you do love the goodness in them, but no one should put themselves in a position where they’re a punching bag. They might not even be mean towards you, but will be harshly complaining about someone where you just feel down after communicating with them.
Having your energy drained by others is real. Those who are doing the energy draining are not necessarily aware of this fact or even aware that they’re doing that. You can be an exceptionally good compassionate person yourself and not realize when you’re in the midst of behaving in a negative way. We’re human and it’s going to happen from time to time. You just want to be aware of that when it does happen. What we’re talking about here is someone who is always negative or toxic every time you connect with them.
When negative energy from someone else is around you, then you want to steer clear of it and not become consumed by it or drown in it. If you stay around it, then this will bring you down, darken your aura, and lower your vibration. All of these phrases mean the same thing. If you are a sensitive, or in tune to energies beyond the physical world, then you cannot deny how it makes you feel when you’re around someone who is toxic. You can have love for them and still choose not to engage with them full time. Connect with them in small doses and then wrap it up by being assertive and point blank saying that you need to go. They might react in a tantrum, but don’t fall into guilt. You have to think of you first.
Everyone is living their own path and no one can live it for them. If someone chooses to head down a self destructive path, no one can stop them. They have to want to change on their own. You can be polite when they reach out to you, but blow in and out quickly. This way they’re not around long enough to infiltrate your area with their toxins. So the key is to say, “I have love for them and wish them well, but we don’t engage much. When we do, I stand in a place of emotional detachment.”
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Posted on July 23, 2015, in Angels, Empowerment, Inspirational, Kevin Hunter, Kevin Hunter Author Writer, Spirit Guides, spirit team, Spirituality, Spirituality For Men and tagged Advice, Assertive, bully, bullying, Dear Abby, drama, Empowerment, gossip, Kevin Hunter, mean, Unkind people. Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.
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